Archives: February 2011

Tired of Being Single?

Singlehood has its perks and but it isn’t for everyone. Eventually you will get tired from late night parties, going out for a random dates and being alone. Some people have been single for so long that they have forgotten how rewarding a healthy relationship can be. Unfortunately, finding a partner is not as easy as ABC. That said, you need to improve your chances in finding Mr. Right/Ms. Right.

 

Before going back to the dating scene, you need to prepare your mindset and healthy approach so you won’t get disappointed. Dump the negative feelings and frustrations so you can decide what you want and follow what your heart desires. You have to shake yourself out of the solo-act mindset. You’re going to be sharing your life with another person again and you should be ready with this transition in your life. You don’t have to rush things though. But keep in mind that it is better to be prepared to avoid disappointments.

 

Sometimes, single people who aren’t looking for love tend to neglect themselves, as they have no one to impress. Head to the gym to work out a bit and clean up your closet and prepare your dress up clothes. For men, cut your hair and shave your beard to impress the target of your desire. And for women, you might need a hair cut too or color your hair, wax your body hair and make sure your nails are clean.

 

Work on your confidence. Do not isolate yourself from the rest of the mankind. I know it takes a lot of courage but best way to do this is to get out into the world again and socialize with people. While doing so you can try hanging out with your friends and boost your confidence to new levels by introducing yourself to relative strangers. Once you’re good enough at chatting for fun you can start dating the person you are interested in.

 

Recognize your accomplishments in life and take up new hobbies. Recognizing your past achievements will help you go up the ladder and boost your confidence in chatting with other people. Don’t worry. You will find your partner eventually. Keep in mind that relationships often start up when you least expect them.

 

Disadvantages of Being Single

Singlehood has its highs and lows. Many people think that being single equals freedom but it has some disadvantages that you should know. Having been in a relationship for a considerable period of time and you have been just dumped, it is hard to see the positive side of being single. Not everyone can embrace the single lifestyle with enthusiasm but for some, there may be plenty of reasons to enjoy being single. And studies have actually shown that being single for a long time can actually shorten your lifespan.

 

We humans are biologically engineered to connect with someone and fall in love. We need contact with others too. Lack of support, not having children and loneliness are the major disadvantages of being single. Not having someone to snuggle up to while watching a movie or even having a regular sex partner can cause loneliness and frustration. When you’re single you usually live on your own and have no one to ask whether or not you look attractive in the clothes you’re wearing. You don’t have a special someone to make an effort when it comes to your appearance so you may be tempted to let yourself go a bit, piling on the pounds and wearing scruffy clothes.

 

Disadvantages of being single can be economic and you get less money for taxes. Singles are more likely to face poverty because of fewer employment benefits, higher levels of unemployment, lower wages and lower social security and unemployment benefits. Another disadvantage of being single is not having children. For kids their parents are the strongest and most beautiful person in the world, and pleasure in the world is better than this.

 

There are plenty of good reasons for being single but we are biologically born to find our other half to be happy and fulfilled with our lives. After all if you ask your parent one simple question. Is getting married worth it? They all agree that yes it is.

 

Understanding His Body Language

Perhaps this is the difficult part if you are in a relationship or dating. It’s not easy trying to figure out what men want. Most of us women, verbalize what’s on our minds. You don’t have to be a detective to understand your guy. You have to understand the clues through observing his body language. You need to have a better understanding of what his body language really means.

 

  • Running fingers through hair- If the guy is running his finger through his hair, it is a loud clue that he’s preening himself for you.
  • Licking lips- We lick our lips in anticipation when we see something we desire. It is a good sign symbolizing that he is anticipating something or is getting nervous, but in a positive way.
  • Raising his eyebrows- If it is a speedy gesture, usually called an eyebrow flash, it signifies that he had liked what he had just heard or seen. It’s an almost universal sign that he fancies you.
  • Expressive with his hands- Using your hands helps you access more information in your brain, especially emotional information and emotion-laden words. If he is very expressive with his hands, then it is a sign that he is a great communicator and will be always very caring about your needs.
  • Big smile- It is a good sign revealing that he is deeply into you. He is experimental and interesting, always ready to switch gears and try something red-hot.
  • Standing with his hands on his hips- He is trying to portray himself more confident and bigger for you.  He is intending to flaunt himself, in a way he expects will appeal you.

 

 

Confidence in Dating

 

Men and women are attractive when they are confident. Confidence makes a person go weak at the knees. It is a state where a person feels sure of his/her self and abilities, knows what he/she is about, knows him/her self for what he/she can do, what he/she may fail at but does not fear to try. To date successfully, you need to increase your confidence level because nothing can be achieved without trying. Lack of self-confidence can stem from feelings of insecurity. Sometimes, we tend not to assert ourselves because of fear or bad feeling about ourselves.

 

To get started, you have to identify the things that make you feel bad or secretive about and determine what you can do to change them. Your fear decreases once you have a full understanding of your problem. You need to take a difficult first step and look inside yourself to discover where and why you feel vulnerable. Your vulnerability may have something to do with your looks, your past experience, family and perceived intelligence.

 

Identifying your weaknesses is not enough. You also need to explore great aspects about yourself. You can start by making a big list of things you have accomplished or things you consider as your strength. Identify your skills that are absolutely essential in community organizations you will start feeling an increase in your confidence. Some studies have shown that changing your behavior speed up your path to increase self-confidence. Try smiling more, exercise and get enough sleep, take time to unwind after a very stressful week.

 

Try to think of yourself as a separate person. As you go through the process of improving your self-image and increasing your self-confidence, think about yourself in the third person as you evaluate your progress. If you can do any of them well, you have traits to cherish!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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